Respected Seniors,
I have been working with my company for the past 2 and a half years. The manager and I have been working together for the past few years. I am an ambitious girl and aspire to build my career in HR. However, my parents-in-law are not in favor of me working. My partner assures me that we will be able to convince them a few months after our marriage. According to my company policy, we are entitled to 30 annual leaves. I am determined not to let my marriage interfere with my career aspirations, and I also look forward to marrying my partner. I am very content with my current office and wish to continue working here for a long time.
Am I entitled to take a 6-month break from my company? After that period, we plan to convince my parents-in-law. I aim to persuade them within 3 to 4 months.
Should I discuss this with my immediate manager or the HR Head?
Seniors, please advise me as I am facing a major dilemma. Both my career and my relationship are crucial to me.
I am in a difficult situation and seek your guidance.
Sana
From India, New Delhi
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I have been working with my company for the past 2 and a half years. The manager and I have been working together for the past few years. I am an ambitious girl and aspire to build my career in HR. However, my parents-in-law are not in favor of me working. My partner assures me that we will be able to convince them a few months after our marriage. According to my company policy, we are entitled to 30 annual leaves. I am determined not to let my marriage interfere with my career aspirations, and I also look forward to marrying my partner. I am very content with my current office and wish to continue working here for a long time.
Am I entitled to take a 6-month break from my company? After that period, we plan to convince my parents-in-law. I aim to persuade them within 3 to 4 months.
Should I discuss this with my immediate manager or the HR Head?
Seniors, please advise me as I am facing a major dilemma. Both my career and my relationship are crucial to me.
I am in a difficult situation and seek your guidance.
Sana
From India, New Delhi
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I think that I could not have asked this question in this community because this community is not for these kinds of problems. But still, if anyone would like to suggest me on this topic, kindly revert back.
Sorry, seniors, if I have made a mistake.
Sana
From India, New Delhi
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Sorry, seniors, if I have made a mistake.
Sana
From India, New Delhi
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Hi Sana,
How are you doing? Sana, don't take others' decisions in this issue! Aap ka dil ki awwaz suno! Analyze karo, decision lelo... H.R hai tu.... Mind these two things in life: stay away from Expectations and Attractions!
Kind Regards,
Pawan
From India, Hyderabad
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3How are you doing? Sana, don't take others' decisions in this issue! Aap ka dil ki awwaz suno! Analyze karo, decision lelo... H.R hai tu.... Mind these two things in life: stay away from Expectations and Attractions!
Kind Regards,
Pawan
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to consider:
1) You can discuss with your in-laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a 30-day leave after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn't work, then
3) Take a break for 6 months, convince them with the help of your partner, and join the company.
4) Otherwise, keep an open option for any other company to resume the job.
Whatever path you choose, talk openly with your partner and come to a decision together. You both are the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and love.
Regards,
S. Aravind.
From India, Madras
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You have more than one option to consider:
1) You can discuss with your in-laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a 30-day leave after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn't work, then
3) Take a break for 6 months, convince them with the help of your partner, and join the company.
4) Otherwise, keep an open option for any other company to resume the job.
Whatever path you choose, talk openly with your partner and come to a decision together. You both are the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and love.
Regards,
S. Aravind.
From India, Madras
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dEAR aRVIND,
DO YOU THINK THIS IS HR WHATEVER YOU ADVISE WHERE DID YOU LEARN IN HRM STUDIES:?:
THIS IS NUN OR OUR BUSINESS WHAT SHE DECIDES IS HE PERSONAL WE ARE NOT MARIAGE COUNSELLORS HERE.
YOU HAVE INVENTED NEW HR INITIATIVES HR ON MARIAGE COUNSELLOR:-D
WE MUST SHOW SOME MATURITY DECIDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE ASKING WHETHER THAT FITS OUR PROFESSION OR NOT:-P
FOR THIS REASON ONLY MY PEOFILE IS NAMED AS BADLOOSER ON THIS SITE:confused:
TAMARO NANO BHAI
BADLOOSER
quote=Aravindsurendran;555488]Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.[/quote]
From Saudi Arabia
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DO YOU THINK THIS IS HR WHATEVER YOU ADVISE WHERE DID YOU LEARN IN HRM STUDIES:?:
THIS IS NUN OR OUR BUSINESS WHAT SHE DECIDES IS HE PERSONAL WE ARE NOT MARIAGE COUNSELLORS HERE.
YOU HAVE INVENTED NEW HR INITIATIVES HR ON MARIAGE COUNSELLOR:-D
WE MUST SHOW SOME MATURITY DECIDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE ASKING WHETHER THAT FITS OUR PROFESSION OR NOT:-P
FOR THIS REASON ONLY MY PEOFILE IS NAMED AS BADLOOSER ON THIS SITE:confused:
TAMARO NANO BHAI
BADLOOSER
quote=Aravindsurendran;555488]Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.[/quote]
From Saudi Arabia
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Hi Arvind and Badlooser,
I'm not too much of an HR person and rarely venture out to give opinions in this forum. Somehow, couldn't stop myself this time. There is no denying the fact that yes, this is Sana's personal problem and that she would be the best judge as far as her personal life is concerned. Perhaps what she is truly trying to find in this forum is what her options are, should she decide to take a break for the above-mentioned span of time. She probably wants to understand how seriously this break would damage her options of resuming work in the same organization. Perhaps the seniors might want to help here.
In my opinion, the best way would be to speak to your HR and discuss your position. And if, post 6 months or whatever duration you plan to resume, there is a vacancy, then depending on your past performance and also company policies (as some organizations don't allow spouses in the same organization), they might be willing to recruit you back into the system. Seniors, please advise and do correct me if I am wrong.
Good luck, Sana, all the best.
Regards,
Aashima.P
From India, Mumbai
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I'm not too much of an HR person and rarely venture out to give opinions in this forum. Somehow, couldn't stop myself this time. There is no denying the fact that yes, this is Sana's personal problem and that she would be the best judge as far as her personal life is concerned. Perhaps what she is truly trying to find in this forum is what her options are, should she decide to take a break for the above-mentioned span of time. She probably wants to understand how seriously this break would damage her options of resuming work in the same organization. Perhaps the seniors might want to help here.
In my opinion, the best way would be to speak to your HR and discuss your position. And if, post 6 months or whatever duration you plan to resume, there is a vacancy, then depending on your past performance and also company policies (as some organizations don't allow spouses in the same organization), they might be willing to recruit you back into the system. Seniors, please advise and do correct me if I am wrong.
Good luck, Sana, all the best.
Regards,
Aashima.P
From India, Mumbai
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Sana, it's your personal problem if you are involved with your manager, implying you might marry your manager, and then face problems. This is a personal matter, my friend. Please refrain from posting such personal issues here. It is a matter between you and your manager. If HR discovers this, both of you may lose your jobs. If your company does not allow spouses to work together, consult your friends regarding issues with your in-laws. As my friend, BAD LOSER, mentioned, we are not marriage counselors. :icon1:
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