I am in a dilemma and very confused........pls help.
I am a qualified lawyer with a MBA in HR with 8 years of work experience. I worked in a large organisation and dealt with core HR activities like competency mapping, legal compliance and performance management. I also need to mention that I am a young mother with a 9 month old son.
Last year in resigned my job as Manager HR and joined a start up. With a young son, the new job saved me on commute time, had flexible timing, a decent pay package and a seemly good job profile with lots of scope for learning.
It is almost a year now but my job is nothing but a office assistant with the only HR activity being forwarding resumes. I shop for office supplies and deal with vendors. All the HR activity is done by the UK office. I am so unhappy with the job. I have spoken to my manger who said nothing much can be changed.
My question is do I hang on to this job as it offers me a good salary and time with my young son or do I quit due to the frustration.
Young mothers in the HR professional............I need your advice.
From India, Bangalore
1I am a qualified lawyer with a MBA in HR with 8 years of work experience. I worked in a large organisation and dealt with core HR activities like competency mapping, legal compliance and performance management. I also need to mention that I am a young mother with a 9 month old son.
Last year in resigned my job as Manager HR and joined a start up. With a young son, the new job saved me on commute time, had flexible timing, a decent pay package and a seemly good job profile with lots of scope for learning.
It is almost a year now but my job is nothing but a office assistant with the only HR activity being forwarding resumes. I shop for office supplies and deal with vendors. All the HR activity is done by the UK office. I am so unhappy with the job. I have spoken to my manger who said nothing much can be changed.
My question is do I hang on to this job as it offers me a good salary and time with my young son or do I quit due to the frustration.
Young mothers in the HR professional............I need your advice.
From India, Bangalore
Dear Moksha,
I would suggest you to stick on to this job for one more year until your kid is 2+ Yrs as the current job is providing you time to spend with your kid. Once your kid is 2+ yrs you can change your job and as you have good work experience you will definitely get a deserving job .
Regards,
Veena
From India
I would suggest you to stick on to this job for one more year until your kid is 2+ Yrs as the current job is providing you time to spend with your kid. Once your kid is 2+ yrs you can change your job and as you have good work experience you will definitely get a deserving job .
Regards,
Veena
From India
dear moksha..i too feel its better for you to hang on till your baby goes to school..As a mother you have to offer a lot to your baby at this tenderly age....so re think about your decision of changing the job(Had you decided to change).....
All the best...
hanuma
From India, Kakinada
All the best...
hanuma
From India, Kakinada
Hello,
Veena and Hanuma are right.....Your present job has flexible hours which allows you to spend time with your baby....if you quit it you would certainly able to give full time to your child...but gap of time would create bad impact on your CV....
So, better to stick with present job and once your child starts going to school, search for a better option....With the rich experience you have..you would definitely get highly skillful job in Core HR...
Regards,
Chaitali...
From India, Vadodara
Veena and Hanuma are right.....Your present job has flexible hours which allows you to spend time with your baby....if you quit it you would certainly able to give full time to your child...but gap of time would create bad impact on your CV....
So, better to stick with present job and once your child starts going to school, search for a better option....With the rich experience you have..you would definitely get highly skillful job in Core HR...
Regards,
Chaitali...
From India, Vadodara
hi moksha,
the child is important .. y dont you try finding another job in the same area which is nearer to your home and also where ul be satisfied with yuor job and the work u do...?
i choose to believe that u should look out for a new job near ur home where u learn something everyday instead of only forwarding resume etc.
but at the same time ur 1st priority shud be ur child..
goodluck!!!
shraddha :D
From India, Bangalore
the child is important .. y dont you try finding another job in the same area which is nearer to your home and also where ul be satisfied with yuor job and the work u do...?
i choose to believe that u should look out for a new job near ur home where u learn something everyday instead of only forwarding resume etc.
but at the same time ur 1st priority shud be ur child..
goodluck!!!
shraddha :D
From India, Bangalore
Moksha
The job pays well
You have quality time with your son
Unfortunately you have to give up something to gain something. this time it seems to be ambition and job satisfaction.
as a woman who has been in HR for 35 years I have had to make many such decisions, including moving to another country ( with my husband) and giving up a Directorship. But in the long run this is what I have found-
Your son needs you more, you are moulding and nurturing another person.
a job, even if it is a fantastic job, will not keep you warm when you grow old. And,trust me on this, no matter how hard you work or how much you love your job, a time will come when the company no longer needs you....then what?
So enjoy motherhood, enjoy the perks a good salary brings and don't get heartsick over job responsibilities etc.
I wish you well and I hope you make good choices in your life.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
The job pays well
You have quality time with your son
Unfortunately you have to give up something to gain something. this time it seems to be ambition and job satisfaction.
as a woman who has been in HR for 35 years I have had to make many such decisions, including moving to another country ( with my husband) and giving up a Directorship. But in the long run this is what I have found-
Your son needs you more, you are moulding and nurturing another person.
a job, even if it is a fantastic job, will not keep you warm when you grow old. And,trust me on this, no matter how hard you work or how much you love your job, a time will come when the company no longer needs you....then what?
So enjoy motherhood, enjoy the perks a good salary brings and don't get heartsick over job responsibilities etc.
I wish you well and I hope you make good choices in your life.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
I agree with the majority.
If you cannot get another job with the same advantages your present one offers, keep working at your present job until you either find a better job or until your child is grown up sufficiently that you can give quality time to him post schooling as well as deliver on your assignment with a better company.
I changed from a full time job to a half-day job in the same company, but when I was asked to revert (as too many others wanted the same privilege), I left that job and got another one on a flexi-time basis, and later started my own consultancy as an independent professional. In this way I was able to give both my children and my profession equal quality time.
Jeroo
From India, Mumbai
If you cannot get another job with the same advantages your present one offers, keep working at your present job until you either find a better job or until your child is grown up sufficiently that you can give quality time to him post schooling as well as deliver on your assignment with a better company.
I changed from a full time job to a half-day job in the same company, but when I was asked to revert (as too many others wanted the same privilege), I left that job and got another one on a flexi-time basis, and later started my own consultancy as an independent professional. In this way I was able to give both my children and my profession equal quality time.
Jeroo
From India, Mumbai
Hi Moksha,
I disagree with the Majority!.
Since you requested that Young mothers in the HR professional should respond and advise - please allow me to present a different point of view;
A qualified lawyer + MBA- HR with 8 years of experience with exposure in Competency mapping, legal compliance and Performance Management are your skill sets/strengths.
Its sad rather unfortunate that the present company have failed to utilize your skill sets.
Am not sure how and what kind of support systems you have and would like to share an incident somewhat akin to your situation.
Pankaj a guy i met some years ago was in a exactly similar situation like yours with a 8 months old daughter and his wife had left him and the baby and married someone else. Even he was not happy with a high paying job as well and was worried about his daughter as well.
He quit his job and since he had 6 years of core HR experience - started on his own placement cum consultancy firm from his house - which allowed him to look after his daughter as well focus on his assignments. Once his daughter grew up to school level - he picked up the corporate job at a decent packet. This period did a lot in terms of his professional growth and knowledge.
Would recommend that you can consider similar option as you have competent and relevant skill sets.
OR
Work with UK HR department by displaying your competency - try to align or find ways to utilise your skill sets in the present set up as i believe state of one's work is as good as one pictures oneself!.
Best wishes,
Rajat Joshi
From India, Pune
I disagree with the Majority!.
Since you requested that Young mothers in the HR professional should respond and advise - please allow me to present a different point of view;
A qualified lawyer + MBA- HR with 8 years of experience with exposure in Competency mapping, legal compliance and Performance Management are your skill sets/strengths.
Its sad rather unfortunate that the present company have failed to utilize your skill sets.
Am not sure how and what kind of support systems you have and would like to share an incident somewhat akin to your situation.
Pankaj a guy i met some years ago was in a exactly similar situation like yours with a 8 months old daughter and his wife had left him and the baby and married someone else. Even he was not happy with a high paying job as well and was worried about his daughter as well.
He quit his job and since he had 6 years of core HR experience - started on his own placement cum consultancy firm from his house - which allowed him to look after his daughter as well focus on his assignments. Once his daughter grew up to school level - he picked up the corporate job at a decent packet. This period did a lot in terms of his professional growth and knowledge.
Would recommend that you can consider similar option as you have competent and relevant skill sets.
OR
Work with UK HR department by displaying your competency - try to align or find ways to utilise your skill sets in the present set up as i believe state of one's work is as good as one pictures oneself!.
Best wishes,
Rajat Joshi
From India, Pune
Hi Friend,
If you are career focused women, then you have wait for few months until ur son is 1 yr or 1 1/2 yr.
Or if somebody is already taking care of ur son, then take up another job.
I want to question, why u didn't opt for maternity leave, I mean who worked as HR manager, thats a good position.
Or if u want to give time to your son, then you can continue.
But again you said, it is not giving job satisfaction.
In long run, if you look back, you shouldn't have regrets.
You think???????????
Thanks
Pallavi.
From India, Mumbai
If you are career focused women, then you have wait for few months until ur son is 1 yr or 1 1/2 yr.
Or if somebody is already taking care of ur son, then take up another job.
I want to question, why u didn't opt for maternity leave, I mean who worked as HR manager, thats a good position.
Or if u want to give time to your son, then you can continue.
But again you said, it is not giving job satisfaction.
In long run, if you look back, you shouldn't have regrets.
You think???????????
Thanks
Pallavi.
From India, Mumbai
Rajat
Your input is a little misleading. Pankaj's case almost parallels mine. I was lucky enough to get the right opportunities and succeed, but if I had not had these opportunities, I would probably have left the full time job and started my own consultancy from scratch, on a flexitime basis.
You have to make a choice - no matter how challenging your choice is - or isn't - and stick by it.
Jerry
From India, Mumbai
Your input is a little misleading. Pankaj's case almost parallels mine. I was lucky enough to get the right opportunities and succeed, but if I had not had these opportunities, I would probably have left the full time job and started my own consultancy from scratch, on a flexitime basis.
You have to make a choice - no matter how challenging your choice is - or isn't - and stick by it.
Jerry
From India, Mumbai
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