HI,
Look for some other options---if u have confidence and qualificaitons--donot worry there are lots of jobs for right candidates---one should not compromise on self respect-----
Regrds
ashok
From India, Delhi
1Look for some other options---if u have confidence and qualificaitons--donot worry there are lots of jobs for right candidates---one should not compromise on self respect-----
Regrds
ashok
From India, Delhi
AKS,
I do not think that this issue is unusual; per media data Office Romance is in full swing at India Inc.
My personal advice for your colleague would be:
Not to run away from the situation, Face it!
Introspect as to what situations/behavior from your colleague would have given GM the confidence to indulge in such activity. GM’s entire credibility is at stake.
Set up an official 1:1 meeting with the GM
Confront the situation and let him know that this is not appreciated
If things does not improve, file an official complain OR escalate the issue.
Thanks
Rahul
From India, Vadodara
I do not think that this issue is unusual; per media data Office Romance is in full swing at India Inc.
My personal advice for your colleague would be:
Not to run away from the situation, Face it!
Introspect as to what situations/behavior from your colleague would have given GM the confidence to indulge in such activity. GM’s entire credibility is at stake.
Set up an official 1:1 meeting with the GM
Confront the situation and let him know that this is not appreciated
If things does not improve, file an official complain OR escalate the issue.
Thanks
Rahul
From India, Vadodara
+ 100 marks, it is upto the girl to decide what she wants to do and she should not follow the advice of members. Even one month back I had a personal issue in my life, but instead of posting it here, I asked to my close friends and then got it solved. So some things are to be discussed with close personal friends and not with strangers on some discussion site, else she can post in forums which are specially made for discussing such type of issues.
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
well i think attraction carries two things one is LOVE and one is LUST.........and the boss is in mood of LUST...................
well give him 3 warnings..........meanwhile to take action get the proof for it......
then personally tell the matter with your boss, if its female boss then very fine and along side tell to his wife also..............
after all the saying goes like this.............
"If you sow an action, you reap a habit.
If you sow a habit, you reap a character.
If you sow a character, you reap a destiny."
From India, Mangaluru
well give him 3 warnings..........meanwhile to take action get the proof for it......
then personally tell the matter with your boss, if its female boss then very fine and along side tell to his wife also..............
after all the saying goes like this.............
"If you sow an action, you reap a habit.
If you sow a habit, you reap a character.
If you sow a character, you reap a destiny."
From India, Mangaluru
I agree with the comments by Badlooser and Captiancook.............
Basically this story seems to be fabricated story of self glorification of beauty that lady has psychological desire to acknowledge her strength tobecome beautiful to get attention of male colleauges.
Specially, those who understand the psychology of ladies of their psychological needs it will not be appropriate to blame lady for using this site for her praise and sympathy as psychological needs of ladies who posted this issue.
There are two sides of coins one Boss and another subordinate both are mature enough to use their common sence to decide what to do?
THen what they expect from citehr members we to do here.......
total bakwas and fully faltu post doesnot deserve the attention but because its interesting gossip story material of popular bollywood film masala everyone wants to jump into post..........
waste and waste only......
Abraham
From Saudi Arabia
Basically this story seems to be fabricated story of self glorification of beauty that lady has psychological desire to acknowledge her strength tobecome beautiful to get attention of male colleauges.
Specially, those who understand the psychology of ladies of their psychological needs it will not be appropriate to blame lady for using this site for her praise and sympathy as psychological needs of ladies who posted this issue.
There are two sides of coins one Boss and another subordinate both are mature enough to use their common sence to decide what to do?
THen what they expect from citehr members we to do here.......
total bakwas and fully faltu post doesnot deserve the attention but because its interesting gossip story material of popular bollywood film masala everyone wants to jump into post..........
waste and waste only......
Abraham
From Saudi Arabia
I guess you should pull out the sexual haprassment policy if he gets into it again but before that tell it to his face in private that you do not appreciat e his advances n tht hes your fathers age or even grand fathers
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Over Reaction And Acting, No One Is Sure Of What’s Truth Behind This Story, People Just Being Provoked And Express Nuisance...
From Saudi Arabia
From Saudi Arabia
My Request To All The Members....please Do Not Entertain Such Issues On This Site...without Knowing The Fact....she Is Mature Enough To Handle This Issue....i Am Sorry Aks.....but Please Don't Use This Forum For Personal Problems......i Might Be Wrong But Please Handle This Issue On Ur Own B'coz People Will Advise You Many thing (including Me...) But That May Not Be Suitable For You.... And You Are The Best Person To Judge The Situation And Act Accordingly......
What Say Seniors.....???
From India, Madras
What Say Seniors.....???
From India, Madras
Dear AKS,
Let me ask you..............are you the HR Officer yourself?...............If not, how come you have mentioned somewhere 'MY JOB'.............in your query.
Anyways, no issues..............There are certain things we need to look at when dealing such situations(Case to case basis). They are -
1. Never ever bother about the AGE.......................you mean to say that if the boss is just 2-3 years old, she would accept that proposal??? I doubt it.
2. The boss as an HR personnel has breached his ETHICS.
3. HR Officer need not take this up very seriously and make a hue & cry of it. This is common with any BEAUTIFUL lady.
What I suggest is -
1. Being a HR Officer, you need to maintain your cool, be an ANGEL, take this as a COMPLIMENT ( because you are beautiful whether people agree to it or not).
2. People at that age (62) say something like that, please do not get bugged up for you need to understand in what circumstances he said that. You even may say, that's none of my business. If that is the case, then you shouldn't be asking us for suggestions..................hope you got me.
3. As you know, Life is a JOURNEY with lots of such people travelling with you & also getting down at their stations. Cheer up, lady.
4. You need to become a COUNSELOR as early as possible to help others in such situations, as well (not quiting your job or being negative in your attitude, etc).
God bless you!
Your's
:icon1:Wellwisher
From India, Hyderabad
Let me ask you..............are you the HR Officer yourself?...............If not, how come you have mentioned somewhere 'MY JOB'.............in your query.
Anyways, no issues..............There are certain things we need to look at when dealing such situations(Case to case basis). They are -
1. Never ever bother about the AGE.......................you mean to say that if the boss is just 2-3 years old, she would accept that proposal??? I doubt it.
2. The boss as an HR personnel has breached his ETHICS.
3. HR Officer need not take this up very seriously and make a hue & cry of it. This is common with any BEAUTIFUL lady.
What I suggest is -
1. Being a HR Officer, you need to maintain your cool, be an ANGEL, take this as a COMPLIMENT ( because you are beautiful whether people agree to it or not).
2. People at that age (62) say something like that, please do not get bugged up for you need to understand in what circumstances he said that. You even may say, that's none of my business. If that is the case, then you shouldn't be asking us for suggestions..................hope you got me.
3. As you know, Life is a JOURNEY with lots of such people travelling with you & also getting down at their stations. Cheer up, lady.
4. You need to become a COUNSELOR as early as possible to help others in such situations, as well (not quiting your job or being negative in your attitude, etc).
God bless you!
Your's
:icon1:Wellwisher
From India, Hyderabad
Dear All,
I have gone through the all posts and comments sent by different people with different openion. Some of them are trying to say same thing but with different words.
I would like to put my views on this issue.
First of all I would say that I have sympathy with AKS. Being an HR professional it is very important to understand people and their imotions. Women have got this power of sixth sense greater than Men.
Behaviour of others is controlled by our attitude towards them. If we are very open minded and people understood the same then its quite obvious to get such kind of comments from others.
"Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder" its a very common saying but we don't mean it.
This is not the problem of Love or Lust.... this is very common when man and woman work together. Some people become friends, some behave like brother n sisters, some keeps a professional relationship, some try to make a time-pass kind of relationship.
Now 99% time this relationship is governed by Females.
This is not the first time happening with a Girl like you and this is not the last incidence going to happen. Only difference is in age and marital status.
But does age & marital status matters always??
And most important thing.... keep in your mind that -
In our indian tradition..... Chahe galti kisi ki bhi ho.... badnam ladkiyan hi hoti hain.....
Instead of wasting your energy in resisting such kind of defame I suggest you to take it as learning and take a justified decision.
If you are really beautiful then you will face the same problem always.
But you have not given any detail that what have you replied when he has called you and was proposing you. That was the only turning time you could handle the situation wisely.
Go ahead with good decision of yours. Be brave and apply the funda of Managment by Objectives. Convey your feeling as you consider him as father .... etc etc. If he is holding a reputed position then he must understand the same.
Good Luck!!
Anish
From India, Bhopal
I have gone through the all posts and comments sent by different people with different openion. Some of them are trying to say same thing but with different words.
I would like to put my views on this issue.
First of all I would say that I have sympathy with AKS. Being an HR professional it is very important to understand people and their imotions. Women have got this power of sixth sense greater than Men.
Behaviour of others is controlled by our attitude towards them. If we are very open minded and people understood the same then its quite obvious to get such kind of comments from others.
"Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder" its a very common saying but we don't mean it.
This is not the problem of Love or Lust.... this is very common when man and woman work together. Some people become friends, some behave like brother n sisters, some keeps a professional relationship, some try to make a time-pass kind of relationship.
Now 99% time this relationship is governed by Females.
This is not the first time happening with a Girl like you and this is not the last incidence going to happen. Only difference is in age and marital status.
But does age & marital status matters always??
And most important thing.... keep in your mind that -
In our indian tradition..... Chahe galti kisi ki bhi ho.... badnam ladkiyan hi hoti hain.....
Instead of wasting your energy in resisting such kind of defame I suggest you to take it as learning and take a justified decision.
If you are really beautiful then you will face the same problem always.
But you have not given any detail that what have you replied when he has called you and was proposing you. That was the only turning time you could handle the situation wisely.
Go ahead with good decision of yours. Be brave and apply the funda of Managment by Objectives. Convey your feeling as you consider him as father .... etc etc. If he is holding a reputed position then he must understand the same.
Good Luck!!
Anish
From India, Bhopal
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