Fear of spoken english - get scared while speaking in public

I want to become a fluent speaker. I get scared while speaking in public . This thing would destroy me . This thing wont let me get placed anywhere . So all i want from you guys is to improve my spoken english

Hi
I urge you to check out the nearest Toastmasters Club in your city and go and attend a couple of sessions as a guest. Thereafter, if you think the setup would help you improve your communication skills join them so that it gives you the perfect setup to practice, improve and develop your Public Speaking Skills.
Best Wishes

Dear Aman

You may not believe but some of the great trainers, presenters and motivators are nervous on the stage. But they somehow overcome it because they have the knowledge and when they start their speech or lecture or presentation, they think of nothing but their content. Speaking in public may be difficult for some. So, be assured that you are not the only one. But at the same time, you would definitely need to overcome it for your personal and professional success.

You can attend some good communication skills workshop, read good books, watch programs and communicate with yourself in the language.

To improve your public speaking, try the following: (In english)

1. You can talk to a mirror (it would look funny, but still if you can talk to yourself, you can talk to the world). Try to smile when you are talking.

2. When you are alone in a room, talk to the things in the room (like chair, table, clock) try to imagine you are talking to a group. Make eye contact (at least try to)

3. How do you talk to your friends, family,? try to analyze. whether you are shy talking to any one of them. If yes, take some time out and try to have a long chat with them. Your family and friends are not going to judge you. If no

4. then try to talk to a stranger. (don't stalk them)

5. Write a poem or a paragraph or a self introduction and read it aloud.

6. You can also try to meditate for just 10 minutes with something positive message and repeat it.

Remember, when you talk to others, your voice should be clear and you should be confident of what you are speaking. You can say only a few lines, but if they are meaningful, then it is going to make a difference.

Hope these will help you. But only if you want to help yourself.

Regards

Dear Aman,
Other learned members have given their valuable opinions. Nevertheless, I would like to write on your statement "This thing would destroy me".
Your belief destroys you more than external factors. Therefore, have a belief on yourself, change yourself and you will find everything changes the way you wanted.
Read newspapers, keep dictionary besides you while reading, improve your word power. Initially you may have to mug up meanings of few words. Do this activity everyday for 2-3 years and I am sure that you will guide others on how do improve oral communication or public speaking!
All the best!
Dinesh Divekar

Hi,
Please go through my latest post:
https://www.citehr.com/531694-10-sim...ml#post2240747

Hello Aman Deora,

You have some excellent suggestions, tips & guidelines from the other members to improve your Spoken English.

With the risk of repetition, I think you FIRST need to get that feeling OUT OF YOUR MIND that "This thing would destroy me". Nothing destroys more than the THOUGHT of failure.

Let me give one example from own life--I had such a bad handwriting in school that it was termed as 'doctor's writing' by all teachers & students alike. In a way, it also affected my X class Public Exam scores too.

And, looking back, I was lucky that when I joined Plus-2, the college closed for 3-4 months in the First year [due to an agitation] & that's when I made a consistent effort to improve my handwriting [consumed ~100 4-Ruled English handwriting books in those 3-4 months...as expected, was poked fun @ as I was doing what IV & V class students were expected to be doing]. And when the college reopened, though I can't claim to have become a calligrapher, it was fairly legible to one & all.

'Practice makes a man perfect'. You will need to put-in focused & consistent efforts until you reach the stage where YOU are satisfied. If someone stares @ your or ridicules you while you are speaking in the mirror to practice, just ignore them--even IF they are family members. The very same persons will later begin to appreciate you.

However, I would suggest you desist from implementing INITIALLY the point mentioned by Anuradha D Juneja about 'making eye contact'. Reserve it for the stage when you begin to gain some confidence.

During your initial efforts, whenever you are expected to address a crowd, suggest LOOK DIRECTLY @ THE BACK OF THE HALL/ROOM over the heads of the crowd. This way you DON'T make eye contact with anyone [which tends to distract beginners] BUT EVERYONE in the crowd GETS A PERCEPTION that you are looking straight @ them. This is a standard lesson used in Acting training.

All the Best.

Rgds,

TS