Marriage/Compromise In Career- Please Help!

Hi Pragya,

First of all Congrats to you!!!

With regards to your personal life would suggest that, “Nobody else other than you can take a call”. Don’t let others decide about your life, but at the same time you need help on the job front………………we are all there for you. The market is picking up and I see lots of job opening on the site, so you can try and I’m sure you will get a good job soon. (“Hope in GOD” :))

Please take this suggestion positively as given by a friend. Coz if your Fiancé is really a good person then letting your job go will not be difficult. As you know getting the right kind of person is very difficult in the present generation.

I know money is important in the presentation situation, but know that “We control the money and not money controlling us” hahahahahahahahah………………. Start your job hunt right-away.

I’m also getting married this coming Sunday and my Fiancé also was from different place, but I went with her and she did get a good job. SO nothing in IMPOSSIBLE.

I pray that all goes well in your life. All the best!!!

Regards
Vivian

Dear Praghya,
First of all, your case involves personal life, you've to take up the decision on your own because for someone Personal Life is much more important than Work Life and vice versa.
Don't confuse career with personal life.. Hope, for you personal life is much more than work life (since you're a woman).
Nowadays Market started coming up, you can find jobs easily in Delhi. You should take the final decision and never let others to suggest on your personal life as it is much dangerous.
Regards,
Murali Nagarajan
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Dear,
Murali,
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If you have the right partner in life, everything else will fall in place in time! Begin with the end in mind, dont be myopic.

Ask your would-be if he is ready to sacrifice for you...
If he cannot afford to disturb his life for marriage, forget him...you'll get a better match!

whoever you are, if such is the case, then plz plz and plz live your life now, enjoy your life now, do all the R&D's with your life now, and then at a certain stage when you feel that, enough is enough and is the time to finally settle down in your life, only then go for tieing the "Knot".....
It makes nonsense to indulge into all this things... and "YES" if you think that you are more inclined towards your career, then please marry a guy who would be Happily ready to become a "Ghar Jamai"... it would be a Win-Win situation for you. For the rest of your life you'll live in peace and Happiness...... Don't do this mistake now and repent later.

It is a simple question. Of the two which is the most important in priority and which do you desire to build the rest of your life on?
In my thinking, love of a soul mate outweights a position or job. They can be found anywhere.
Justs food for thought.
Dr. Marc
PS 63:7

I think, you should have thought this before you got engaged to that guy.
After engagement you shouldnt have any confusion about continuing the relationship.
Career is very important for gals now-a-days. But Social values are important more than that. First we should be clear about what we do.
Dont get confused now. My suggestion is to go ahead and get married with that guy. Getting a job is not so tough, if you have confident on yourself
Best Regards,
Chandramouli Praseetha.

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Regards,

Mukesh Kumar

Hi Pragya,
I m neither married nor engaged. Still I try to put my thoughts in it.
You can find a job at any age of your life, if you are talented. You can change or leave as many job you want.
Life partner is nothing to do with talent. Its all depends on ur emotions. To change or leave life partner is heart breaking. Believe me once ur age to find a life partner is gone, u will feel like anything.
Now ur decision depends on weather u really need ur hubby as ur life partner or ur Job as a life partner. Because breaking marriage with this guy doesnt assure u that u will get ur hubby from ur town only.
All the best and have a great life & future ahead with ur loved ones